Safety Planning

If you are still in the relationship:

  • Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs. Avoid rooms with no exits like the bathroom or rooms with weapons like the kitchen (filled with knives, etc.).
  • Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
  • Keep change with you at all times
  • Prepare an overnight bag. Keep it in a readily accessible place. In addition to clothes, include in it:      o   Money, checkbook, credit cards, ATM cardo   Driver’s license and registration, social security cards, birth certificateso   Public Aid cards, green card, passport, work permitso   Order of Protection, divorce paperso   Medications, medical and vaccination recordso   Lease, rental agreement, house deedo   Keys to house, car and worko   Insurance papers, bank booko   Address book
  • Memorize all important numbers.
  • Establish a "code word" or "code sign" so that family, friends, teachers, or co-workers know when to call for help.
  • Leave a set of keys and copies of important documents with a neighbor in case you need to leave quickly and your bad is not accessible.
  • Think about what you will say to your partner if s/he becomes violent.
  • For information about receiving an emergency cell phone to use for 911 calls, call 1-888-901-SAFE (7233).
  • Remember you have the right to live without fear and violence.
If you have left the relationship:
  • Change your phone number.
  • Screen calls.
  • Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries, or other incidents involving the abusive partner.
  • Change locks if the abusive partner has a key.
  • Avoid staying alone.
  • Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
  • If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
  • Vary your routine.
  • Notify school and work contacts.
  • Call a shelter for battered women. To connect to the nearest shelter call1-866-223-1111.